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What Happens to a Tear

Have you ever thought what happens to your tears?

After learning of yet more friends of mine telling me that they are having to navigate the rapids of divorce, I pondered this very thought. While spending some time alone with God on the beach after the beginning of the new year, I couldn’t help but wonder….

Is the ocean full of tears? How about the river or a lake? When you turn on the tap to wash the dishes, is it filled with lost hopes and dreams?

In Psalms 56:8, David wrote “You have kept count of my tossings (wanderings), put my tears in your bottle. Are they not in your book?”. With that he is saying that God knows about our tears and he has them. If he knows how many hairs are on your head, he knows how many tears you have shed. He knows, and He cares.

In the physical realm, the tear has to go somewhere.

We have all seem the Water Cycle chart that shows how water moves here on earth.

  1. Evaporation
  2. Condensation
  3. Precipitation
  4. Collection

Whether you wipe your tears on a tissue, your hand, or let it drop to the floor, it leaves you. It now has been collected somewhere. Evaporation will eventually happen. It will then combine with other moisture and eventually come back to earth somewhere,  maybe in that water bottle you just took a sip from a moment ago. Maybe it becomes a part of the next thunderstorm or snowstorm that hits.

It may seem far-fetched and a little out there to think this, but while I stared out at the Atlantic Ocean, I couldn’t shake the thought that the joy and pain of others that produced those tears could be right past my beach chair. In the same ocean that I receive peace and joy from sitting and watching the waves gently crash upon the shore, who’s tears are bringing me that peace and joy? What are their stories? Have they found peace, a peace that surpasses all understanding? A peace that heals and brings wholeness to their spirit, soul, and body?

I believe in some way, we are all connected by our mutual experiences, good and bad through the tears we shed in pain and joy. We sympathize and empathize with those that need a shoulder to collect those tears and rejoice with those that are celebrating victory and success.

Just like the many tears I have shed over failed relationships, situations, and pain, God has used them to renew others in ways I will never be able to comprehend. My experiences and obedience to allow God to use me to encourage and counsel others on His indescribable love has allowed my tears to be refreshment to others.

The tears you have shed will eventually refresh others, one way or another. Maybe you cried in their beer and then it may be sooner than later. 🙂 Maybe you will be able to tell your story to a friend or family member that is going through exactly what you have gone through.

In many ways, your tears eventually bring forth new life and helps sustain life in lives and the world around you. It may not feel like it while you are shedding the tears. Trust me. They will.

It you feel like sharing your story, I would love to hear it. I am sure many others all over the world would be encouraged to hear about you and how your tears could bring them hope in their troubled times. Just leave it in the comments. I read them all.

Know that God is holding record of all of your tears and He wants to be your answer to what has caused your tears.

He loves you more than you will every know. He has an open shoulder and welcome arms.

Be blessed!!

 

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Tears

What is a tear?

Lamentations 1:16 (ESV)

16 “For these things I weep;
my eyes flow with tears;
for a comforter is far from me,
one to revive my spirit;
my children are desolate,
for the enemy has prevailed.”

 

Does God even care?

Psalm 42:3 (ESV)

My tears have been my food
day and night,
while they say to me all the day long,
“Where is your God?”

 

How can I go on?

Lamentations 3:49-50 (ESV)

49 “My eyes will flow without ceasing,
without respite,
50 until the Lord from heaven
looks down and sees;

 

A tear is made up of 4 basic ingredients; water, salt, antibodies, and lysozyomes.

We all know that our tears are made up of water and salt. But they are made up of far more than that. Antibodies are disease fighters and lysozyomes are antibacterial enzymes. Without these two crucial ingredients, irritants and germs can cause you severe problems with your sight as well as other mental and physical issues. You may not be able to see correctly while you get more frustrated physically and emotionally because of the pain and discomfort.

Have you ever cried so hard and so long that you leave wet stains on everything around you as your heart breaks, your soul hurts and nothing seems to help you, but all you can do is to let it flow, snot & all?

I have been there. I remember laying face down on my carpet crying uncontrollably for at least 30 minutes; no Kleenex and no way to stop. It seemed like hours. The pain. The hurt. The despair.

God created you. And in you is a way to healing with all the ingredients needed. It is called a tear.

Water is what carries the healing ingredients. It is essential for life. 55-60% of the human body is made up of water and every living cell needs it to keep functioning. The maximum time an individual can go without water seems to be a week, but the most typical time frame is only 3-4 days. You see how vital water is to our existence, physical and spiritual!!

John 4:13-14 (ESV)

13 Jesus said to her, “Everyone who drinks of this water will be thirsty again, 14 but whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again. The water that I will give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”

Salt is an essential nutrient that the body uses to regulate many bodily functions and is contained within body fluids that transport oxygen and other nutrients. It is also essential in maintaining the body’s overall fluid balance. Without salt, your body cannot correctly use the life-giving water that your body needs for life. Salt in the Bible speaks of value. It was used to purify and preserve, and as a way to establish a deeper relationship with others through the consumption of it. Salt values, purifies, and preserves the relationship with the water.

Numbers 18:19 (ESV)

19 All the holy contributions that the people of Israel present to the Lord I give to you, and to your sons and daughters with you, as a perpetual due. It is a covenant of salt forever before the Lord for you and for your offspring with you.”

Antibodies are crucial for the body to fight off disease and toxins. What is in our body that needs to die for life to continue must be destroyed, and antibodies do that. We have things inside all of us that need to die, physically and spiritually. For life to continue, we need to constantly battle anything that is not beneficial for us and the health of the whole body.

2 Samuel 22:40 (ESV)

40 For you equipped me with strength for the battle;
    you made those who rise against me sink under me.

Lysozyomes do their part for the body by digesting and eliminating that which the antibodies conquer. The trash, disease, excess and waste are chewed up and then sent packing. Our body cannot be fully healthy if what has been defeated and used up is not removed for good. Just think of all the physical and spiritual good that has been done to bring health to the body. For us to live, it must be discarded and removed completely.

Hebrews 12:1 (ESV)

12 Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us,

You may be wondering why I went to all the trouble to break down a tear.

Your tears matter and your tears mean something. They speak volumes. They hold hopes, dreams, and relationships that you valued. And God knows. He knows you are hurting. He wants to give you His shoulder to cry on and His arms to hold you at this time.

Psalm 56:8 (ESV)

You have kept count of my tossings (wanderings);
    put my tears in your bottle.
    Are they not in your book?

Through your tears, God is bringing forth life; carrying breath and strength (water) that purifies and preserves His relationship with you (salt) while defeating inside your soul the disease that is killing you (antibodies) as you digest and eliminate it (lysozyomes).

Your healing is inside of you. Let go and let God do His healing work in you that needs to spring forth through His glorious living waters.

My next post will share what happens to your tears.

 

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It Goes Away

Sometimes it feels like the pain you are feeling will never go away. Some days it is too much to bear. It goes away.

I had a dream last night about my ex-wife. It was surprising, but I know there was a reason for me having that specific dream. Do I know for sure why? No, but I choose to let God understand while I obey.

In the dream, my ex-wife and I never expected to see each other again. We tried to play dumb with the other people around. They asked if we knew each other and we came clean. Nothing more about the dream really meant anything, other than it was set in a tv cop show setting and we were a part of a sting operation. She ended up being undercover and was caught up with the bad guys when the sting went sideways. The dream ended with them on the run.

I dream maybe 5-10 nights a year so it is rare for me. It took a few minutes to register. When I dream about someone, I feel that it is God’s way of saying “Pray for (whomever)”.

Why did I pray for my ex-wife when she is the person who hurt me deeper than anyone else in my life? Because I believe God put her on my mind to pray for her. Simple as that. It may be her or her family’s health. Maybe someone passed away. Maybe she lost a job. I don’t know, but if I believe God wants me to pray, I need to pray.

What did I pray for? That she and here family are ok physically, healed and whole. I prayed that they would experience God in a fresh, new way and that they would be blessed.

18 years ago she ripped my heart out, trampled on it, and threw it in my face as she laughed and walked away. At least that is how it felt.

How could i pray for her now? Because I allowed God to heal me completely. It took time, but by being open to the Word of God, it allowed the Holy Spirit to mend up the wounds of my heart and mind. I made a choice to love God and be obedient to what I feel He calls me to do, including praying for my ex-wife if He wants me to.

It also allowed me to check how my healing is doing after all of these years. If I still felt pain, anger, or any other feeling other than thankfulness for His grace, mercy, and love; I need to deal with that.

Time doesn’t heal wounds, a faithful and honest relationship with Jesus does!!

Most of you that are reading are newly divorced or still within a few months or years of your divorce. How would you deal with a dream about your ex?

My prayer for you is that you continue down the path of healing and wholeness that God has for you. It takes time, tears, forgiveness, and God’s love to get there.

It goes away.

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Prayer Project: Day 31 “Joy”

Day 31: “Joy”  Joy in the natural can be simple to attain and yet fast and fleeting. Joy in the spirit you don’t even need to worry about. It is always there, encouraging and calling you into a greater life. It may even bubble up in uncontrollable laughter, too.  Everybody wants and needs joy, but only the joy that comes from a healed and whole heart knowing how much they are loved by their Creator satisfies.

Resource list:

Divorce to Healing: 31 Days of Healing and Wholeness Reading Plan

Divorce to Healing: Survive and Thrive Reading Plan

Divorce to Healing Blog

Divorce to Healing: 31 Days of Healing and Wholeness Book

Prayer Project: Day 30 “Peace”

Day 30: “Peace”  There will always be conflict, even in your greatest relationships. Don’t let that discourage you. Through struggle comes strength, if you use it positively. Peace is more an attitude than a feeling. You can choose to live in peace.  Take the high road because in the end, the view is so much more peaceful.  Peace is not an absence of conflict, it is a quiet comfort in strength. Peace is not a lack of an enemy, it is the fullness of a relationship with the peace-maker, Jesus!!

Resource list:

Divorce to Healing: 31 Days of Healing and Wholeness Reading Plan

Divorce to Healing: Survive and Thrive Reading Plan

Divorce to Healing Blog

Divorce to Healing: 31 Days of Healing and Wholeness Book

Prayer Project: Day 29 “Evidence”

Day 29: “Evidence”  So many little things all the way up to the big things are improving daily, even if you do not see it yet. Each day you wake up, you are one day closer to your healing and one day closer to the blessings God has for you.

Resource list:

Divorce to Healing: 31 Days of Healing and Wholeness Reading Plan

Divorce to Healing: Survive and Thrive Reading Plan

Divorce to Healing Blog

Divorce to Healing: 31 Days of Healing and Wholeness Book

Prayer Project: Day 28 “Shame”

Day 28: “Shame”  So many more days lay ahead of you and you have so much more life to live. Don’t spend one more day feeling shame and guilt. Do something about it now.
When you spend time in the Word of God, you will gain the strength and wisdom to move past all of your feelings of less than healed and whole.

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Resource list:

Divorce to Healing: 31 Days of Healing and Wholeness Reading Plan

Divorce to Healing: Survive and Thrive Reading Plan

Divorce to Healing Blog

Divorce to Healing: 31 Days of Healing and Wholeness Book

Prayer Project: Day 27 “Reconciliation”

Day 27 “Reconciliation”  When you can be cordial and polite to those that have hurt you, you will be able to give an amazing testimony of how your healing is making you whole.
Reconciliation is more about bringing people back into fellowship and civility than about returning to something you had in the past. Do it for your wholeness.

Resource list:

Divorce to Healing: 31 Days of Healing and Wholeness Reading Plan

Divorce to Healing: Survive and Thrive Reading Plan

Divorce to Healing Blog

Divorce to Healing: 31 Days of Healing and Wholeness Book

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