Some of the most difficult times in our lives are those that cause us to desire things we cannot have. I want my 20 year old, 185# physique back. I may lose the weight, but something tells me I will never be 20 years old again.
We all yearn for something or someone. During separation and divorce, we yearn for our relationship with the person we have lost, when it was so happy and life-giving for both of you.
Feelings of longing for a relationship we used to have or the possibility of a new one, is not wrong and you should not feel bad about that. Just be realistic with your feelings.
May I suggest you yearn for that which you can attain, like a healed heart and a renewed soul? Reach to acquire the help you need to get you there, like professional help or pastoral care. Give yourself a chance.
Growth comes through stretching for more than you have now. Just like a rubber band, by stretching it out, it actually expands when it retreats leaving it able to do more next time.
Take time to yearn, but for what matters and for what will bring you the healing and wholeness you need to move forward.
5 Or do you think that the Scripture says in vain, “The Spirit who dwells in us yearns jealously”? James 4:5
There is someone who does yearn and longs jealously for a sincere relationship with you; Jesus. Take time to let him show you what a real loving relationship is.
God, may my heart and soul be filled with Your love so completely that I can feel how jealously you yearn for us to spend time together, in Jesus’ name. Amen.